Some people can’t handle the extra problems that come with being a young parent.
Someone asked on Reddit if she was wrong for telling her teenage daughter that she wouldn’t help her raise the baby she was to be born.
Rose, my daughter who is 19 years old, has always been smart. That she did well in school earned her a free ride to a great nearby school. She’s been living with me and doing well in school.
I don’t like her new boyfriend that she got a few months ago. He always breaks her trust, but he hides it with a big smile and big promises. They’re still dating even though I told them not to, and now she’s pregnant. I said I would pay for the abortion and take a few days off work to help her get better.
No, she said. She is going to marry her boyfriend, and their family will be very happy. He wants to live with me, and she’s going to quit school while he works to pay their bills. He works in a bar and doesn’t go to college. She got mad when I laughed at this idea.
She told me I’ll have to help with the baby more since he can’t move in. People, she’s always been a very smart kid. I don’t understand where this all came from. If she thinks she’s old enough to get married, have a child, and raise it, she needs to move out soon and learn how to be an adult with the child’s father.
I raised the one child I asked for. I don’t want any more kids to live with me. But I told her I wouldn’t be responsible for this baby. I would pay for diapers now and then and still visit her. If she decides to adopt, which I don’t think she will, I’d be happy to help her through it.
I can’t talk to her. The man she lives with, my husband, is staying out of this because he thinks I can help her more. He stopped talking after I told him he could go over and watch the kids for her.
I had my daughter when I was 19 years old. My wife and I were married to her armed forces father. I still finished college on time at age 22, and things were going well for us until he died in service. I think the fact that it worked out okay for me is making my daughter not think clearly. Her boyfriend can’t even do that for her or their child. This is a totally different situation.
Many of you still want me to let her live with me and keep the baby. This is not going to happen!! I don’t want a baby in my house at all, and I’m not going to babysit either. What I’ll do as a grandparent is go to birthday parties and buy gifts now and then, but that’s it.
